For much of our history in America, black women have been maligned, wronged, and given a raw deal. So much so that it has put many of them on the defensive.
The white man regarded them as promiscuous, oversexed animals.
Many black men have publicly criticized and abandoned them.
They had to pick up the slack and be the man and the woman of the black family unit.
Much can be attributed to the effects of slavery. The emasulation of Black men, discrimination against black men in employment opportunities. Institutional racism and it's destruction of morale and implementation of the black inferiority complex.
While these historical facts cannot be disputed, we often forget, Black women were also subjects of this same discrimination. So why is it that they were able to do what was necessary to keep families afloat in the absence of black men? Something doesn't add up. If she could do it, why couldn't he?
This brings me to the present. We know what has happened in history. We know the reason for the disparities between the races. We also live in a time of opportinity where we are able to reap the benefits of the fight our forfathers fought. We can go to college, we can be successful in business, we can even be president. So why is that so many Black men are still abandoning their families and leaving children for black women to raise alone? Why are so many impregnating multiple women and leaving them to struggle in their absence with no assistance?
Most of all, with the knowledge of our history, knowledge of the mistakes made in the past, and knowledge of the legitimate obstacles faced previously---- Why are black men in this day and age coming out publicly criticizing black women in favor of other races of women when they are a main factor causing the issues they complain about?
The Cycle.....
Man and woman have a daughter.... The black father leaves the woman and child behind. The woman has to raise this daughter in his absence. The child has no Man to help her mother and provide an example of a loving relationship. The mother in a need for companionship has one man or a series of men who mistreat her or doesn't show her respect she deserves. The only example her daughter sees of black man/women relationships are dysfunctional.
man and woman have a son. The black father leaves the woman and his son behind. The woman has to raise this son with no male example for this son. He grows up seeing men mistreating/disrespecting his mother. His only example is also dysfunctional....
These two people get together with only dysfunctional relationships as a reference. It doesn't take a genius to know not only will it not work, but they can only mimic the same behavior they saw. He mistreats her, cheats on her, and disrespects her. She shows her dissatisfaction by increased bitterness yet stays with him and allows him to continue. Meanwhile they are reproducing having kids in this dysfunctional relationship until it implodes and destructs. Then the cycle is repeated. We understand this cycle and we have seen it time and time again .... so these particualr black men know quite well WHY the black women they complain about are this way.... and then they try to innocently act as if they don't know why when they have contributed to the problem.
Referring to them as Hoes,Bitches,Jumpoffs, Tricks, and recreational sexual partners.
Taking an irresponsible approach to sex and carelessly reproducing and running on to the next thing shaking its ass.
Showing a general lack of respect for black women in general.
Publicly criticizing them and accepting no accountability for their part in the equation.
Then they look back at the carnage they helped create in the form of emotionally damaged, bitter, cynical black women with esteem issues due to the constant rejection of this particular damaged pool of black men AND the negative media portrayal, innocently as if What's her problem? They look at this monster they created as they walk off into the sunset with Suzie Q as if they had no part in it.
Heaven forbid he has money and has ignorantly believed Suzie loves him for his kind heart and sense of humor. After she has secured her financial future with no regard to his detriment, he then comes back home for the black woman to nurse his wounds because he knows she is there waiting to have his back. Then I'll be damned if as soon as he gets over his bruised ego, he goes RIGHT back out and does the same thing while telling the black woman to kiss his ass. (O.J. Much?)
It is because of this type of recklessness that black women have become emotional and highly reactive to things like the Slim Thug Interview when he irresponsibly and ignorantly alleged that black women were gold diggers.
Black women then deciding to defend their virtue vehemently lash out and dispute this protrayal. Unfortunately it only comes off as validation of the Angry Black Woman syndrome sterotype.
I understand the outrage of many black women, but I think in instances like the Slim Thug interview, black women should take a step back and process the whole situation.
Look at who is talking. A ghetto man, who has been exposed to Ghetto black women. Who proudly calls himself a Thug in celebration as if its a good thing.
Then he uses phrases like "Don't Gotta" in an interview.
Then obliviously calls attention to his own self hatred the more he talks and generalizes Black men AND women.
When you take a step back you see it's not even worth your time to be upset and furthermore, you really don't care what this person's thoughts are anyway. When he says black women, he's not talking about average black women. He is referring to the hood rats, ghetto divas, and chickenheads he has delt with in his limited social circle.
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